It’s about being a part of a group … not apart from a group.
What do we mean by belonging?
When we belong to a group, we feel we have a place in it or a right to be part of it.
Groups can be of any size and makeup. Often they are made of people who share a common passion or interest – for example a group of friends, a band, or a sports team. They can also be made of people who share something else in common – for example being from the same community, religion, or country; or having special needs.
What do we mean by including and excluding?
To belong to a group we have to feel included in it by its other members: we must feel that they welcome
us into it, or at least agree with us being part of it. Sometimes we have to
make an effort to be included in a group (like practising our music for band, or
learning a new language); sometimes we are automatically included (like being
born blind or a Kiwi).
If we don’t feel included in a group, we can feel excluded from it.
Why is belonging important?
When we belong to a group, we feel accepted, respected and supported by it. It can form part of our identity (who we feel we are). Not only can this make us feel good about ourselves, but it usually makes us want to join in its activities. When we belong to a group we know that there are others like us on whom we can rely in good times or bad, so it can make us more resilien .
If someone feels excluded from a group they want to be a part of they might feel sad, rejected or angry. If they can’t find another group to join, they might feel lonely and vulnerable. It can also be hard for people to value, understand – or even care – about groups to which they don’t belong.
We may belong to some types of groups all our lives.
There are also lots of groups to which we may belong for a while only.
Can you think of some examples of each type?
How can we belong to groups or include people in them?
There’s a lot we can do to include people in groups or belong to them ourselves:
|Accept invitations to play and invite people to join us in return; join in group activities in school and outside it||Invite people to play with us at school and at home – especially if they’re new in town|
|Join sports, games, music or community groups||Welcome people into our play, sports, music or community groups|
|Offer to help others and show that we appreciate their help and friendship; contribute to groups||Share things with others – toys, sports’ gear, our time, our friendship|
|Try to understand or fit in with the customs of another group, community, culture or country; maybe explain yours to them||Ask someone to tell us about their different ability, lifestyle, culture or country; avoid judging people before you get to know them|
|Keep an open mind, be ready to take on new ideas and experiences and give everyone a “fair go”||Keep an open mind, be ready to take on new ideas and experiences and give everyone “a fair go”|
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